Men on Lockdown or Can’t Talk Now, My Woman Here

Whew!  It’s been almost two months of being on lockdown due to COVID-19.  I am an essential employee so I have been going to work with my protected gear and prayers.  My job calls for me to keep the children of Philadelphia safe since they are locked in with their abusers.  But one thing I noticed is that there has not been a peep on my online dating site page.  So are all the men on lockdown or is this the hard truth of men of online dating cheating on their women(girlfriends or wives) not being able to get away to chat?  Seriously, I have not had one try to flirt with me in the past month!  So of course I cancelled my subscription and will continue to try my own way after the outside opens back up!  Stay safe and sanitized!!!

Can I ask you out or can you solve this riddle?

I’m back , so where did I leave off at?  Oh yeah, so I would describe myself as vivacious, outgoing, creative, adventurous and maybe spontaneous.  These are the same qualities I look for in a male for a possible relationship.  But lately I am getting boring, drama filled, closed minded and can’t have fun due to stress and the system(wtf?).  So like I said before, I do a lot of judging on conversations I am having with the opposite sex.  One of the things I like to do is attend comedy shows and this person, who wants to know me better, knew this…so this is how the conversation goes.

Him:  A couple of comedians are coming to town soon, did you know that?

Me:  No but I don’t like one of the comedians.

Him:  Really I like him.  The dates for the other comedian fall on my son’s birthday.

Me:  What plans do you have for your son?

Him:  A pool party or taking him to the beach.

Me:  All three of you?

Him:  No his mother will take him with the other children.

Me:  What other children?

Him:  Oh she has 3 other children.

Him:  I was asking if you knew about the shows, that’s all.(and walks away)

Me(to myself):  Not really sure of what just happened.  Was he trying to ask me out?

Needless to say this was not the last conversation from him that left me questioning if I needed an interpreter.

A panty dropper kisser or you have something on your mouth

Ladies, ever see a guy and be like he wouldn’t be interested in me or would he? Six feet, light skin, light brown eyes, muscular body, but not too much, swag for days..model material for GQ. So one day in the gym, I am working the front desk and he comes up to me and starts talking, also an employee. I am a little flustered because my imagination is working overtime and visions of acts I can’t describe are dancing in my head. So after a couple of weeks, we are still talking. I am a little leery because I am waiting for the other shoe to drop…someone to come out of hiding, claiming she is his woman. One night at the gym, he asked me to walk with him to another part of the building that was vacant. Ooohhh this is building up. He pulls me towards him, placing his arms around my waist. He says to me I want a kiss. At this point I am going to go for it and go wherever it may lead. We move in so our lips could meet but his lips sucked my entire bottom half of my face, I couldn’t kiss back. He had both my lips, chin and tip of my nose in his mouth.

Aaaaggghhh was screaming in my head. He finally released me because he felt I wasn’t kissing back. I am now dripping in saliva and I want to cry. I hug him so I could wipe my face on his shirt and he thinks I am responding to all this. He whispers in my ear he wasn’t going to let me go until I gave him a kiss. While he was holding me, I was trying to come up with a plan to escape. I got up my courage, grabbed both sides of his face, closed my eyes and went in. Nothing changed but he did let me go to the bathroom to wash my face. Needless to say, I avoided him the rest of the time working there and the next couple of days a picture was up of him and some girl hugging. Good for her!

You just won an all expense paid weekend trip or I want to sell you some land in the mountains.

Agghh, really? What can I say? I thought he was the one after he told me he wanted to take me away for the weekend. He told me to pack a bag and don’t worry about money, we will be leaving after 3pm on Friday(check in time was 5pm). I couldn’t believe it because I was the one who usually made plans for weekend getaways and paid for it, telling whoever, his money would not be good on this trip. I was so excited and giddy, I shed a tear as we drove up the highway. The conversation was flowing and I was all smiles as I caught him sneaking peeks at me. Wow I could get use to this; could I call him my husband? Well we check into the resort, nice cozy room, whirlpool was relaxing and dinner was delicious. As we toured the rest of the resort there was additional activities to partake in, I was in heaven. I’m going to married him, thinking to myself. Then the alarm sounded, a little too early on our last day, but I figure we were going to breakfast or he was bringing me breakfast in bed. He tells me we have to go to a meeting and I looked at the time and told him to go without me. I needed a few more hours to make up for last night due to all the fun I was having. He stated that we had to go together and I was like why? He explained it was a timeshare presentation but I didn’t have to buy anything. Well a 20 minute argument ensued and I attended the presentation with an attitude. I really was waiting for someone to jump out and say it was a new reality show of being punked. Needless to say..I brought the timeshare, we never used it together and we no longer communicate; that fantasy bubble was busted.

Can I get your number? Or I will waste 2-4 hours of your time

Lots to say about this. I am very reserved in giving out my number because it always result in a fail within 2-4 hours….example. This guy spoke with a neighbor of mines to get my name. One day I am coming home from work and she calls me over because this unknown male is standing there. She introduces us, and his name is the color of a crayola crayon. After some pleasant exchanges, I asked him why was he single, he said that women were crazy. Strike one. He asked me why I was single, by choice of course . So since I am a woman you are saying that I am crazy. Strike two. But I still proceeded to give him my number, yes I admit to my craziness.
So one day sitting on my steps, he comes driving up screaming that he called me and I was embarrassed. He parked his truck, got out and told me that he had called me on my cell and  I told him I would call him back. So this went on for about a minute of me telling him he was wrong, when he realized that he called the wrong number. He then said he was going away and would call when he got back. I said don’t bother…needless to say I never heard from him again.

I am not a cheerleader but I love sports

Ok I can give support like the rest of them, positivity coming your way, prayers up to the one and only, I got your back, yada yada yada. I wanted to be a cheerleader my Freshmen year of high school for our brother school’s football team. The skirts were real cute and so were the players. My mother told me to stay with basketball because it’s more prestige(she had no way of knowing since she was neither a cheerleader or a basketball player). But I must say, having a packed gymnasium screaming your name when you are introduced or scoring the winning basket, my god it’s an ego mind blowing high..and it lasted through my senior year of college. So I get it that men need to be cheered on by one or a posse but you won’t get it from me when you complete mundane tasks. I can take the trash out, shovel my car out of the snow, fix a leaky faucet and lift more than110lbs. I am asked to come over to watch the playoffs but also pick up the beer…..needless to say, I have become one of the boys.

Bitch, you can learn a new trick or why old dogs still need to be trained

In a previous post. I talked about never being too old to learn how to flirt. I don’t know if this was a good title but after having a good laugh with a coworker about another coworker, I believe it fit.  You see, there is this guy, always a guy, that has expressed interest in me.  When he started talking, I got the impression he wasn’t looking for a girlfriend but a life coach. Of course this came to me after he told his life story and admitted that he just told me everything about his past relationships.  I said to him that he needed a life coach and he said he didn’t need no damn life coach.  His first ex-wife(cause there was a 2nd) told him the same thing.  I told him there must be some truth to it, because I didn’t know your ex-wife.  He said he was 52 and if he didn’t know it by now, he didn’t need it.  I was like one is never too old to learn and how do you expect to know me or my ways.  Needless to say, when we see each other in passing, he gives me fist bumps because I believe I have been reduced to one of the fellas.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How To Be A Better Person

I am accepting a challenge to be a better person. This information was given to me by Celestine Chua. Day 1 is committing to your growth. I am feeling a little stuck in my life right now. Do I return back to school to get my Masters, look for another job, leave everyting and venture forward? I come back to reality due to the bills, grounded friends and maybe age? This is going to take more than a day, I am already tired and need a nap. I will dream of my growth and measure myself at the end of the week.

RE-INVENTING YOURSELF

Hello World!

Ladies how many times have you come to the end of a task and know what to do next? Because it was written out for or someone told you. When it comes to your life, does that plan stay the same until you leave this earth? I am going through job burnout, being in my late 40s and needing a change. I met Carolyn Wilson, her title is Magnified Educator Empowerment Expert and her workshops on Magnify Your Essence. She is the Founder of Women on the Move-Women’s Empowerment Network. I have attended workshops on “What’s your Passion?”, “Starting an Exercise Program”, “Volunteering”, and “Changing Careers”. And guess what, they were all free ladies! On May 17th, 2015, she just held her first Celebrating You Women’s Conference which was very powerful, inviting and encouraging. Women are definitely doing it for themselves!!!! To learn more about Ms. Wilson and her bold moves go to magnifyyouressence.wordpress.com to hear Herstory.

DIY Home Maintenance Workshop by OneBetterCommunity.com

Hello world, especially female homeowners. I just completed my first home maintenance workshop with the organization One Better Community.com. They also assist first time home buyers, low income home owners and the rest on renovations and repairs. They promote pride in self and help build up our communities. It also doesn’t hurt that they are helping you to save money and learn solutions to everyday problems that occur in the home. Keah Jones is the CEO and Co-Founder of this company.
Mrs. Jones is an amazing woman who took an opportunity and turned it around to benefit others. Go to onebettercommunity.com to hear more about Herstory.